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Upset with longtime family fri

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There's a man who has known my family for over 25 years and a bit of a celebrity in the area along with being a former pro athlete and a retired deputy sheriff. Last year, I called him on his birthday and he was so happy and perky. And also told me to call him back anytime. I call him a couple more times and is more grouchy and irritable. And the last time tells me ''I can't help you! I can't help you! I can't do nothin'! I can't help you there!'' And then says ''I can get around much, can't do much! Can
5 months ago
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Looking in the mirror...

From: Andrea
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During my eating disorder struggles, I would look in the mirror, many times even stare at myself—my body and face—for hours and I hated what I saw. I hated myself and everything about me. All I saw were flaws. I felt so ugly, like everything was “wrong” with me. And many times I would hide in my room, crying, punishing myself.

Today, I look in the mirror and I see a person. I see ME! And what is even more amazing is that I like what I see. I don’t criticize myself, I don’t pick on myself, I don’t beat myself up. Today, I actually look in the mirror and I smile at myself. I’m comfortable in my body and about my body.

There are no more voices in my head telling me ‘I am fat’, ‘I am ugly’ and ‘worthless’. These voices are GONE.

There are many things that helped me accept, love and embrace myself. And today I’d like to share a few of these things with you.
I stopped weighing myself. I used to weigh myself a couple of times a day and the number on the scale would determine how I felt. This number had so much power over me—it was in control. So I broke this unhealthy obsession, from one day to the other. And even though I was scared and tried to avoid getting rid of the scale with all different kinds of excuses, I did it anyways. And getting rid of my scale was a HUGE step forward in my recovery. I urge you to get rid of your scale. They don’t do you any good—all they do is make you feel worse about yourself! With breaking your obsession with the scales, you are freeing yourself from an essential part of your eating disorder.
I stayed away from celebrity and beauty magazines and TV shows. Even though there was a part of me that wanted to look at all these pictures, I knew it was poisonous for my mind—so I stayed away from them during my recovery process. Whenever I saw these *perfect* celebrities I would start comparing myself with them and beat myself up because I didn’t look like them. So for me the solution was learning not to pay attention to this information.
I would look in the mirror and say something nice about myself. I would say “I love you” and “I am beautiful.” I did that every day. Yes, it was very painful. I felt like I was lying to myself. I *knew* I was ugly and worthless and saying all these *nice things* just felt so wrong. But I stuck with it. And after some time, the things I said slowly started to feel real and I slowly started to like my appearance. Baby steps.
We are all beautiful. We are all unique. We deserve to be loved! Let’s embrace ourselves!

Andrea
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8 months ago
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Welcome to CLUB NOT-SO-PERFECT

From: Barbara
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I talked to three girlfriends today and all three made some negative comment about themselves and talked about trying to get perfect. (This is still in New Year’s resolution territory after all.) I had to laugh. Even though I am in the same club. In fact, while I was talking to them, I was measuring out my 1,000 calorie a day diet I’m on right now (per my nutritionist) to get leaner for filming, and reading a magazine about which celebrities have had plastic surgery.
It’s a sickness. We are all fabulous, beautiful and talented women! So why do we feel this way? That we are never THERE yet? Wherever THERE is. And where does this whole concept of “Perfect” come from?
I am working hard to get past it. And to celebrate me now, as I am, instead of what I possibly-maybe-probably not-could be someday. My business puts added pressure on me though. Every other actress I work with is a size zero. It’s my life, and I have to deal with it. It’s disheartening, but if I start to obsess about it I start to spiral downwards. And that’s a bad place that I never want to see again. I am through feeding an eating disorder.
So…I consciously use “triggers” to get my attitude up again. They work instantly too! Things like: My magical vision board! Love words I say to myself! Celebrating my wins as they happen! Screaming a big fat happy YES inside myself!
And this year on January 1^st I started a gratitude journal that I write in every night. I get into bed, open the book and reflect back on my day to find the good stuff. Makes me more aware of all the positive things in my life, and it outweighs the "not perfect" ones. And my attitude changes.
My girlfriend Phyllis decided to use “white butterflies” as her trigger. I even bought her white butterfly earrings. And would you believe she often ends up seeing them fly around her now? How weird is that. She calls me all the time and says “I’m looking at a white butterfly!” For real. I don’t think I’ve ever seen one around here, and I live in the same building. The Universe really does listen to us and sends back exactly what we are putting out. If it’s positive you’ll get positive back. But if it’s negative, watch out.
So when the negatives start happening to you, please borrow my trick. Do something that celebrates the positives in your life. Create your own triggers so that you are in control and can bounce right back up! It's that magical Law of Attraction thing...
Maybe we should just form a club called CLUB NOT SO PERFECT. And celebrate that! Hey, I think I’m on to something….
Love and Light!
Barbara
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10 months ago
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"Minor Accomplishments of Jack

From: Shadoe
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When we first met Jackie, a surly magazine writer and aspiring screenwriter, and Tara, an underling at a film production company, the two were navigating their way through the gritty realities of Hollywood. From the latest celebrity cults, to stolen movie scripts, backstabbing relationships and mounds of coke, our modern-day, nihilistic Laverne and Shirley managed to pull each other out of the Tinsel Town gutter – and now they're ready to do it all again. Back for another season, the girls – always their own worst enemy – face new obstacles, including the arrival of Jackie’s meddling mother Jeanette (Mary Kay Place), a brief stint as lesbians for personal gain and surviving L.A.'s state of emergency with the help of some potent brew. Can Jackie and Tara find fame and fortune, or are they destined for only minor accomplishments?

The show appeared on IFC (Independent Film Channel".
10 months ago
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"Minor Accomplishments of Jack

From: Shadoe
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When we first met Jackie, a surly magazine writer and aspiring screenwriter, and Tara, an underling at a film production company, the two were navigating their way through the gritty realities of Hollywood. From the latest celebrity cults, to stolen movie scripts, backstabbing relationships and mounds of coke, our modern-day, nihilistic Laverne and Shirley managed to pull each other out of the Tinsel Town gutter – and now they're ready to do it all again. Back for another season, the girls – always their own worst enemy – face new obstacles, including the arrival of Jackie’s meddling mother Jeanette (Mary Kay Place), a brief stint as lesbians for personal gain and surviving L.A.'s state of emergency with the help of some potent brew. Can Jackie and Tara find fame and fortune, or are they destined for only minor accomplishments?

The show appeared on IFC (Independent Film Channel".
10 months ago
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"Minor Accomplishments of Jack

From: Shadoe
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When we first met Jackie, a surly magazine writer and aspiring screenwriter, and Tara, an underling at a film production company, the two were navigating their way through the gritty realities of Hollywood. From the latest celebrity cults, to stolen movie scripts, backstabbing relationships and mounds of coke, our modern-day, nihilistic Laverne and Shirley managed to pull each other out of the Tinsel Town gutter – and now they're ready to do it all again. Back for another season, the girls – always their own worst enemy – face new obstacles, including the arrival of Jackie’s meddling mother Jeanette (Mary Kay Place), a brief stint as lesbians for personal gain and surviving L.A.'s state of emergency with the help of some potent brew. Can Jackie and Tara find fame and fortune, or are they destined for only minor accomplishments?

The show appeared on IFC (Independent Film Channel".
10 months ago
Views: 63
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"Minor Accomplishments of Jack

From: Shadoe
Description:

When we first met Jackie, a surly magazine writer and aspiring screenwriter, and Tara, an underling at a film production company, the two were navigating their way through the gritty realities of Hollywood. From the latest celebrity cults, to stolen movie scripts, backstabbing relationships and mounds of coke, our modern-day, nihilistic Laverne and Shirley managed to pull each other out of the Tinsel Town gutter – and now they're ready to do it all again. Back for another season, the girls – always their own worst enemy – face new obstacles, including the arrival of Jackie’s meddling mother Jeanette (Mary Kay Place), a brief stint as lesbians for personal gain and surviving L.A.'s state of emergency with the help of some potent brew. Can Jackie and Tara find fame and fortune, or are they destined for only minor accomplishments?

The show appeared on IFC (Independent Film Channel".
10 months ago
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Appearing on "The Dr. Keith Ab

From: Barbara
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I appeared twice on Dr. Keith, talking about the pressure to be thin in Hollywood.
10 months ago
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Hosting a live event with Mich

From: Barbara
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10 months ago
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Groups

From: Shadoe
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Hey Everyone!

Besides the primary area of the new community we also have Groups! You can join any group if you like. A brief run down of the groups are:
1. Shout Out to Barbara
  This is a place to ask Barbara what's up or say hello etc.
2. ACT as if! / Live Your Dreams!
  This area does double duty. ACT as if! is Barbara's new system for kickstarting yourself into Living Your Dreams! This group is also part of her speaking on the subject ACT as if!. This group is also for anyone who wants to share in what they are doing to make their dreams happen and looking to share and be part of a group all doing the same thing.
3. Easting Disorders & Perfect
  This group is geared towards Barbara speaking on this subject but also to be a group of support to those dealing with eating disorders and also for those with loved ones who have someone with an eating disorder.
4. Show Business 101
  This is about how to go about all things show business and some of the technics etc used to make it in the world of entertainment. If you'd like to talk to others who are already in show business or those looking to be and want to find out and share what others are doing. This is the place.
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11 months ago
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